It’s Not You. It’s Me.

All suffering is caused by ignorance. People inflict pain on others in the selfish pursuit of their own happiness or satisfaction.”  — Dalai Lama


He ate the last one, and he knows they’re my favorite!”

What do you mean it’s sold out? You just don’t want me to have one.”

I know he cut me off on purpose…”

Really, people. Let’s be reasonable about this. With the exception of maybe a few select sociopaths, no one plots over their Wheaties in the morning trying to find ways to ruin your day. They were most likely pondering ways to make their day better – and chances are you just stumbled into their way.

We human beings are inherently selfish animals, and we default to the path that serves our own best interests without thinking much more about it. Unfortunately we forget that taking that particular path might cause us to trample on other people’s interests along the way.  I’ve done it.  So have you. It doesn’t make us bad people, just occasionally inconsiderate and fallible.  Human.

We could all stand a bit more tolerance and forgiveness in our lives.  So the next time you find yourself getting your undies in a bunch over something “done to you” in the course of your day, try this:

  1. Take a deep breath or two.
  2. Grasp your bunched undies firmly with both hands and tug them back down where they belong.
  3. Treat it as a bump in your path instead of a collision, and continue about your day.

Try it. What could it hurt?

Even better – what could it heal?  

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *